How to get what you want from sex
Although men think about sex a great deal more than women – researchers found the average male thinks about sex 13 times a day, whereas the average female thinks about sex five times a day – sex is still a hugely important part of a woman’s life. Our top 7 sex tips will show you girls how to raise your libido.
Single and frustrated
We all need to have sex. If you’re single, this can be a problem. If you want to find someone who can help ease this frustration, sex expert may help. She states that people who attract the most attention from men are those who send out 35 flirtatious signals per hour. This sounds like a huge amount, but flirting can be very subtle. Stroking your arm or tilting your head is considered a flirtatious act. One of the most powerful ways to flirt is to hold eye contact with the man you want. You can also angle your head forwards, so you have to look slightly upwards. This position makes women look more feminine and more alluring to men.
Know your body
Put your hands up if you want a body-shaking, pleasure-blinding orgasm? Then it is time to explore. Even in the present age, female masturbation remains taboo. Yet how can you expect your man to pleasure you, if you don’t know what is a turn-on and a turn-off? To find out what you like, try when you are alone. You will need to focus on different areas, at different times, to discover what is best for you. There are also herbal oils that can stimulate you. Zestra oil is said to arouse sexual desire and heighten the sensations of sex. Be aware that Zestra is oil based and is not compatible with latex contraception, like condoms.
We all have them, but do we know what the erogenous zones are? The female hot-spots are the: feet, neck, ears, wrists, nipples, butt, vagina, clitoris, lips, inner thighs and the back of the knees. Now you know what they are, you need to tell him. Ask him to stroke, kiss or massage each and every one at different speeds and with different pressures.
Make sure you ask him sensitively, avoiding bossing. Get in bed and kiss him. Then give gentle direction and tell him how good each thing feels. Later, take this one step further by wearing a blindfold. It adds a new dimension to your sex life whilst making your erogenous zones ultra sensitive.
Know his body
Lots of research has gone into what turns men on, yet relatively little has gone into researching what turns a girl on. Although it may be hard for the feminists to swallow (in some cases literally) it seems that sexually satisfying and pleasing their partner is a big turn on for many women. So get to know his body and what he likes. Compared to the female, the male erogenous zones are more widely disputed, but areas you should pay attention to are the: foreskin, corona, neck, anus, feet, nose, perineum and underarms. You should aim to tickle, kiss and lick these areas. Some men also like to be bitten or scratched – make sure you ask first.
Sometimes we just don’t feel like sex and that is fine. But if we are stressed for a sustained period of time, our libidos often suffer. In a YouGov poll 43% of females admit their sex drive is affected by stress. To combat this you need to learn how to relax. A useful tip is to take a steamy hot shower, then quickly switch to cold. This is a quick and effective way to lower stress levels; it also stimulates your body. As your stress levels decrease, begin on some subtle foreplay. Ask your man to join you in the shower, once wet, lead him out and start to dry his body. Work slowly and rub him all over. Get him to do the same to you.
Rodeo, Bridge, Figure Eight…erotic acrobatics are fun, but do they help you achieve orgasm? If you’re looking to climax during sex, your position should stimulate your clitoris, your vagina or your G-spot. If you want to try and work all three, lay flat on your bed. Put a pillow in the arch of your back and ask your man to enter you in the missionary position. The pillow will angle your body up. This causes more friction and stimulates your clitoris, whilst also allowing for deeper penetration. Another big-O position is if you go on top. Your clitoris will be sandwiched between your pelvic bone and his, leading to that essential clitoral stimulation.
Although talking during sex can be a turn-on, during the latter stages of sex, when you are about to reach climax, silence may be key. According to studies women need to focus on the sensations men provide to achieve the most powerful orgasms. When you feel that you may come soon, try to focus on each sensation you are feeling. For example, focus on the weight of your man on you, focus on the feel of his hands touching you and the taste of his lips. Even though you know that you need some quiet time, your partner may not. To stop him from speaking, kiss him or seductively hold a finger to his lips.