How to turn a woman on in bed? How to please her sexually? How to get an orgasm for your woman in the most effective way? How to increase her chances of having an orgasm? Read on further for answers to these questions.
(1) Encourage her to do Kegel exercise (to make vagina tighter)
Kegel exercise, also known as pelvic floor muscles training, is done to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder, small intestine and rectum. Kegel exercise is helpful for women who want a tighter vagina. The exercise is widely used as a standard technique to help women who have orgasm difficulty.
First she has to identify the right muscles to squeeze and let go. Ask her to slip one or two fingers inside her vagina. Get her to squeeze the vaginal wall muscles against her fingers. If she feels her fingers been squeezed, she is exercising the right muscles for the Kegel exercise. She has to do this squeeze and release exercises a few times a day. This exercise is very convenient because she can do this at any place and any time she wants.
To help her in doing kegel exercises, you can get her some tools such as kegel exerciser, vaginal tightening cream, Ben Wa Balls or a dildo. You can also go online to get her a self-help book on vagina tightening.
(2) Train yourself to last longer in bed
The reason you need to do this as a guy is because women tend to take a longer than men to reach orgasm. Here are a few ways you can go about in getting you to last longer than your woman in order to make sure she orgasms before you.
You can also do Kegel exercise which is good for your sexual health. This exercise is very helpful for men who men who experience premature ejaculation. Besides helping men to last longer in sex, this exercise is been used to achieve a stronger erection.
To do Kegel exercise, you will contract the muscles below the bladder that control urination. You do this for a slow count of five. Then you release the muscles to a slow count of five. You repeat this for ten times in each session. Each day you do three sessions, one each on the morning, afternoon and evening.
Another way is to master the start-and-stop masturbation technique. You stroke yourself until you are quite close to ejaculation and then stop to cool it off. After another minute, you repeat this start-and-stop action. You do this for six times on a daily basis. You should start to see results after four to six weeks.
You can try the penis-grip method by squeezing the penis head with your thumb and forefinger. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily reduces sexual tension and slows down the ejaculatory response.
You can also get a fleshlight (male masturbator sleeve) which is shaped like a flashlight, with its long handle and a wide base at the other end. To use a fleshlight, you insert your penis into the opening and simply stroke up and down. Because the fleshlight is designed to emulate a real vagina as much as possible, repeated usage can help to lessen the sensitivity of the penis tip. This will help you to delay ejaculation.
When you are quite close to ejaculation during intercourse, you can apply pressure on the perineum (the mid-point between scrotum and anus). This will stop ejaculation because this spot reaches through to the prostate gland which expands and contracts to force out seminal fluid.
Other ways are gently pulling down on your scrotum and doing shallow penetration (not more than three inches inside) during intercourse.
(3) Clitoral stimulation
Most women do not reach orgasm through vaginal penetration. This is because the normal missionary position does not offer much opportunity for clit stimulation. The following are a few ways to stimulate the clitoris.
(a) Manual stimulation
First, you get some lubricant to apply over your fingertips and clitoris. You place your index and middle fingers close together over the top of her clitoris and rub her in circular motion.
You can also squeeze the clitoral hood with your index and middle fingers and gently rub it up and down at a consistent speed.
You can also place a thumb over the clitoral hood. To secure this position, you insert tow fingers inside her. You massage her clitoris using your thumb in a circular motion.
(b) Oral stimulation
For the start, you will spend more time licking and kissing her inner thighs, the lining along the vaginal lips and the area surrounding her clit. When she is quite highly aroused, you will concentrate more on licking her clitoris. You can also add a little more pressure by placing her clitoral hood between your lips and sucking on it. If she is able to take in more, you can lift up her clitoral hood to directly lick and suck on the clit. You can vary your touch according to her preference. Some prefer a light touch while others require a firm but gentle touch.
(c) Sex toys
You can also include the use of dildos, vibrators and butt plugs. Some sex toys are designed with clitoral stimulation in mind. These include the rabbit vibrator which has flap that can knead the clitoral region during penetration. The clitoral massager is also an ideal tool for offering the pleasure she needs for toe-curling orgasms. Other fun aids to use for oral sex are edible panties, tie and cuff set, flavored gels and role-playing.